As I sit watching Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood
I began reflecting on my childhood and my close friends. I see the Ya-Ya’s and how they are still after families, life and years could have severed the ties and it got me thinking about friends rather than the other aspects of this movie which I also could delve into very easily.
There was a time where I thought my close friends and I would always have this ideal adult friendships and that our bond would never change. I could picture us old and grey sitting on one of our porches or in a back yard reminiscing on our past and having our kids and or grand kids there in the background. I have had the same core of best friends for 15+ years and that is amazing, and they are more like sisters than anything now.
Throughout our friendships there have been our share of highs and lows. There have been arguments that have felt like the end of the world but no matter what we stayed friends and worked through it.
I have made some not so wise choices and my behavior at times was less than desirable. It hurts me to know that there are things I want to take back when it comes to not just my friends, but my family too. It is funny how when you grow you reflect and see things for what they really were and that is a rude awakening sometimes.
My friends are not all in one spot anymore, it makes things difficult as far as communication and keeping up sometimes, and due to some of my hasty choices and mistakes that too has put a bit of a strain on some friendships. Life gets in the way, time passes and we change.
There are times when I want to go back to high school and be carefree and full of anticipation for what the future holds. To be able to have my girls all in one location and be able to call them up and go visit like we used to. Sit around with popcorn and movies (or music and music videos) talking about any and everything.
I am so glad to be able to have the friendships and bonds I have, and I do feel I have my own “Ya-Ya Sisterhood”.
My Ya-Ya’s know who they are and that no matter what I will be there for them in a heart beat. They have been there for me more times than I can count and I am forever grateful!
Though things are not what I envisioned they would be with my best friends when I was younger (so much for the adult sleep overs and vacationing together) but I am very happy that we are still friends and have such a special bond. Plus who knows, maybe one day the adult sleep overs and vacations will become reality.
Friendship… is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything. ~Muhammad Ali
just a few photos of my “Ya-Ya’s”
originally written 6.13.12